We all hope for our kids to grow up to be kind and compassionate individuals. Maybe you find yourself repeating “Be nice” or “Treat others how you want to be treated” or desperately scouring the internet for ways to teach empathy — books, role playing with a stuffed animal, you name it. But while teaching empathy is important, fostering it actually starts with us.
Research shows that parents who practice self-compassion (being kind to themselves when they feel upset or stressed) tend to pass that skill on to their children. In one study, it was found that when parents themselves had supportive, compassionate caregivers, they were more likely to develop self-compassion, which helped them be more emotionally available for their kids. It’s sort of like a domino effect. This supportive approach allows children to develop a secure attachment and strong emotional regulation, setting them up for better behavior and well-being in the long run. Simply put, when parents show themselves kindness and care, they model those same tools for their children, creating a foundation of emotional health.
And empathy plays a big role, too. A separate study found that parents with strong cognitive empathy (the ability to understand what their child is feeling) were more likely to raise kids with strong social skills. These kids, in turn, were less likely to develop emotional or behavioral problems. Empathetic parents offer a safe space for their kids to explore emotions, which not only strengthens the parent-child bond but also teaches children how to respond to others with care and understanding.
Both studies make it clear: by practicing self-compassion and empathy, we’re not only improving our own emotional well-being but also giving our children the tools they need to thrive emotionally. Ready to build a more compassionate household? Start with yourself, and watch how it transforms your kids!