Conflict is natural — in fact, it’s an important aspect of healthy relationships. How we respond to it can determine if it stalls or strengthens the relationship. Let’s explore this model for effective problem-solving to GROW through any obstacles that come our way.
G for Goal
Oftentimes we disagree but our end goal may be the same — wanting the best for our children. Clearly defining what it is we’re trying to achieve reminds us that we’re on the same team, fostering understanding and opening the door to compromise.
R for Reality
Assess the current situation. How have you and the other person been working towards this goal? What are the similarities and differences? When we have a clearer understanding of where we’re at, we can better navigate a path moving forward.
O for Options
Brainstorm different ways to resolve the situation. Provide your input but also actively listen to what the other person has to say. Weigh the pros and cons, identify any obstacles, and offer validation and understanding.
W for Way Forward
Now that we’ve established our starting point and where we want to end up, it’s about building the roadmap to get there. What actions do we need to take to achieve this goal? What might we need to stop? How can we stay motivated? And when might we need to check in again?