This might seem like a silly exercise but the silliness is what makes it the perfect lighthearted reminder that we’re not as different as we might think. Yes, we’re different and special in our own ways, but when we remember that our experiences may be shared, we feel less lonely and less afraid to be ourselves.
“The Unicorn Syndrome” is a term coined by those in the eating disorder space. It refers to those with disordered eating tendencies who believe that they’re an anomaly. For example, someone with “the unicorn syndrome” may think that others need carbohydrates to maintain a balanced diet, but not them.
This general thought pattern can also be common for parents. Maybe it’s ok for other parents to get help, but you need to handle it all on your own. Other parents deserve a break but not you. Others make friends so easily but not you. The list goes on. These thoughts might come up, but it’s what we do about them that matters.
Let’s say we start to get it in our head that other parents connect with others so easily, but not us. We might start to go out less often and keep to ourselves, making it difficult to connect with others — and reinforcing the idea that we can’t make friends. So, the next time you get one of these limiting thoughts about yourself, remember the phrase “I am not a unicorn” to remind yourself that you CAN do it.
Whether it’s going over to introduce yourself to that group of parents who seem to all know each other, accessing local resources, or asking for support so you can get a break, know that you’re not alone. You might be a rare, regal, resilient horse or even a narwhal, but you’re not a unicorn!