Discover comforting elements in your life like cherished routines or lasting friendships, helping you stay calm and centered, even in the whirlwind of parenting, with insight from this post by Dr. Rick Hanson. Here’s a brief overview of the article. For a deeper dive, be sure to check out the full post.
What can you do when you’re shaken?
The practice: find your ground.
Why?
The Maori term “turangawaewae” refers to a “place to stand,” which represents not only a physical place but also a psychological and spiritual foundation. This idea emphasizes the importance of having a grounding space — whether it’s a home, a sense of love, inner calm, or ethical clarity. In times of uncertainty or challenge, finding and holding onto this grounding is essential.
How?
- Ground yourself in the present. Focus on sensations of breathing, your heartbeat, and being here and now.
- Reassure yourself and check in with loved ones to separate present reality from future worries.
- Acknowledge the relationships and support networks that remain, even if imperfect.
- Stay focused on the facts of the situation without getting caught up in catastrophizing, blaming, or overanalyzing.
- Recognize the impact of events on yourself and others, and be clear about the consequences.
- Balance empathy for others’ suffering with protecting your mind from external panic or negativity.
- Remember, you are not alone — others are facing similar challenges, and we stand together on common ground.
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